College Counselling Service Blog

Where Do I Fit In? #20

Starting college is a huge change! New place, new teachers, new routine, new friends, new subjects…the list goes on.

Some of your friends from school might be off doing different things, have found other friends and interests and you might be left feeling; Where do I fit in?

Not only that but you might be thinking; have I made the right choices? Am I doing the right subjects? Should I wear my hair like this or like that? As well as a million other thoughts going round and round.

Know this, nearly everyone around you is wondering very similar things. Also, it is absolutely ok to not know all of the answers. But being in the ‘unknown’ can feel scary and here are a few tips to try, to help you feel grounded and get you that head start:

Be open minded, don’t close yourself off to things too early.
SMILE; notice the energy you give off, is likely the energy you will attract.
Take your time, don’t feel that you need to rush big decisions
Be the first to reach out! You never know what may come from it.
Talk to friends, family and teachers about how you are feeling, there is probably a simple solution.
Reach out to Wellbeing or Counselling if you are feeling really stuck and need to talk things through a little more.
Take the pressure off yourself and talk kindly from within- We can be our own worst enemy.